*The Goddess Of Beauty*

Clearly, there are some things that sexual confidence is not about. For starters, it’s not about having a great body. Perhaps unexpectedly, older women describe themselves as much more sexually confident than younger ones. I say "unexpectedly" because younger women tend to be regarded as having more objective sex appeal. But older women have the extremely valuable benefit of experience.

It’s not selfish in a sexual situation to please yourself. Think about it—what greater gift could you give your partner than to have a really good time? If you’re having fun, your partner is going to have fun. And that’s not a license for selfishness; it’s a recognition that you can’t give away what you don’t have yourself.

Sexual confidence isn’t something you need a partner to give to you or validate in you. In fact, if you’re focusing too much on him, that can be a big distraction and erode your sexual confidence.

Women, when they were younger, they were more inclined to let other people define their sense of self. Women who know their bodies better—who know what turns them on—report enjoying sex more. They’re more confident that their interactions will be successful.

They tend to care much less as time goes by about what other people think. They certainly don’t let men inhibit them. Older women, in particular, seem much more at ease with the prospect of being on their own, are more content with who they are, and feel far less desperation to be in a sexual relationship—which, in turn, allows them to relax and feel more secure in themselves. And that clearly boosts their sexual confidence.

A core truth about sexual confidence: It is not all about sex. It is very much about power, the power that comes from liking and accepting yourself. A woman who is open-minded, wants to have fun, and isn’t counting on getting an engagement ring within minutes of meeting a man has an ease about her that translates as power. By contrast, one who looks like she’s on the prowl for Mr. Right and is deafened by the ticking of her biological clock sends a totally different message. And as any guy will tell you, that message is: Run! But if you’re comfortable and genuinely happy, others sense it and want it. Women who like where they are in their lives exude an assurance that makes for some very positive vibes in the bedroom.

Consider that being irresistible is more a matter of interest and appetite than of anything else. You can forget about becoming everyone’s physical ideal. Everyone has their preferences, their weaknesses and even their hang-ups . There’s nothing you can do about that. If he’s mad for tall blondes and you’re a short brunette, don’t rush out for Clairol and three-inch heels. There’s a better way. And forget about miniskirts (unless they look not only good but effortless on you). Irresistible is something else. It transcends the physical, it plays fast and loose with the psychological, and it makes the world a bigger, more entertaining, more filled-with-possibilities place.

There is ALWAYS a possibility for a person to get attracted to another - - it’s HUMAN NATURE, it’s not wrong! But when you are in a relationship, you should discipline yourself. You may get attracted to numerous prospects and it’s ok, as long as you DON’T nurse the feeling and WON’T do anything about it.

Recognize the REALITY that you already have the person who can give you MORE than what you get from the CHEAP thrills of attraction.

If I could have just one wish,
I would wish to wake up everyday
to the sound of your breath on my neck,
the warmth of your lips on my cheek,
the touch of your fingers on my skin,
and the feel of your heart beating with mine…
Knowing that I could never find that feeling
with anyone other than you.

A stranger you were once.
Then, with a gentle look you took my hand.
As our lives engaged,
you lit my life and I held both your hands.
Now that decades have passed,
ours souls have indeed become one.
How fortunate we are
that we have found the love so true
that everyone dreams about.

I love you so deeply,
I love you so much,
I love the sound of your voice
And the way that we touch.
I love your warm smile
And your kind, thoughtful way,
The joy that you bring
To my life every day.
I love you today
As I have from the start,
And I’ll love you forever
With all of my heart.

FROM: KEN MARTIN

A special world for you and me
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.

Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.

And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.

From: Ken Martin

There are people who can walk away from you; and hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you, let them walk.

I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you, let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The Bible said that, they came out from us, that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay. Let them go. And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person, it just means that their part of the story is OVER. And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over so that you don’t keep trying to raise the dead. You’ve got to know when it’s dead.

You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something. I’ve got the GIFT of GOODBYE. It’s the tenth spiritual gift.. I believe in goodbye. It’s not that I’m hateful, It’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have, He’ll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat, I don’t need it. Stop begging people to stay. Let them Go!

If you are holding on to something that doesn’t belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to Let it go!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains… Let it go!

If someone can’t treat you right, love you back, and see your worth… Let it Go!

If someone has angered you… Let it Go!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction… Let it go!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents… Let it Go!

If you have a bad attitude.. Let it Go!

If you keep judging others to make you feel better… Let it Go!!!

If you are stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in HIM… Let it Go!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship… Let it Go!

If you keep trying to help someone who won’t even try to help themselves…Let it Go!

If you’re feeling depressed and stressed… Let it Go!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it", then you need to Let it Go!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. God is doing a new thing!!! Let it Go! Get Right or Get Left… think about it, and then let it go..

>>LOVE<<

* Love is loyal.
* Love is wanting the best for the other person.
* Love is compromising and working things out in a
   way that you both can win.
* Love is finding common ground.
* Love is trying to come together in a way that
   makes the world a better place.
* Love is NEVER Selfish.
* Love is selfless.
* Love is CARING about the other person’s emotional NEEDS and FEELINGS.

>>LUST<<

* Lust is self-gratification.
* Lust can be obsessive.
* Lust is usually tied to sexual gratification.
* Lust is ALWAYS selfish.
* Lust DOES NOT consider the other persons
   wants and needs.
* Lust DOES NOT care about how the other
   person’s day went.
* When someone’s IN LUST they ARE NOT
    interested in MEETING FAMILY AND
    FRIENDS.
* Lust is wanting something to the point that you
    DON’T care who gets hurt.
* Lust MANIPULATES, DESTROYS, and
    CONTROLS.
* Lust often involves RAGING.
* People who lusts MAY THINK they are in love,
   but the FIRE BURNS OUT quickly when they get
   the person or thing they lust for.
* Lust DOESN’T last, but LOVE CAN.

Sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person we love, we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who love us. We miss out on so many beautiful things simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns. Go for the man in deeds and not for the man of words for you will find rewarding happiness not with the one you love but the one who loves you more! The best lovers are those capable of loving from a distance far enough to allow the person to grow, but never too far to feel the love deep within your being. To let go of someone doesn’t mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his own happiness without expecting him to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but it is also setting yourself free from all bitterness, hatred, and anger that you keep in your heart. Do not let the bitterness rare away your strength and weaken your faith, and never allow pain to dishearten you, but rather let yourself grow with wisdom in bearing it. You may find peace in just loving someone from a distance not expecting anything in return. But be careful, for this can sustain life but can never give enough room for us to grow. We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past but real peace and happiness comes only with open acceptance of what reality is today. There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and very good-looking and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more of us than just a friendship, much worse, lust, we start our desperate attmept to get noticed and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves. You don’t have to forget someone you love. What you need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself. Believe me; you would be better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving. Don’t let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow; if you lose love that doesn’t mean that you failed in love. Cry if you have to, and cry some more, till you shed no more tears, but make it sure that tears wash away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you. Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it does, Pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime. There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is though everything is a miracle.

Bacs